"Thanks for the information about your gift books... I found your books to be the best gifts in my life, ones that I can treasure forever."
- Fernando M. Pantino, Department of Education, Pasig City, Manlia, Philippines
"Your latest book is an absolute treasure! I wish every person entering the teaching profession were able to read it -- able and REQUIRED to read it! It's a book for ALL people. Wonderful bit of writing. I repeat! Your parents would be so proud of you! Keep up the good work, Mary and a big "thank you" for my copy. I shall read it again many times. I especially enjoyed the story about Randy -- and haven't we all had a Randy in our classrooms? Bless you for changing this kid's life."
- Doris Wiens, Retired Educator
"I'm hoping that your new book is receiving a marvelous reception in the educational community. Everyone I've shown it to is really quite enthralled with the message."
- Heather Kibbey, Northwest Publishers Consortium
"I just got done reading your newly released book Make a Difference with the Power of Connection. Wow! I had so many light bulb moments as I was reading it. I would like to get your book called No Labels, No Limits next. I am a 45 year old mom of two girls. My oldest daughter is 16, and I can see where I have not been connecting with her, and can hardly wait for her to come home from her band camp to start connecting. My baby is just 18 months old, and I can see where I have already started the same sad way of reacting to things. But now I am certain I can change that too. I really appreciate the help your writing is giving me. Thank you."
- Kelly Harris, Parent
"This is the first time in my life that I get a mail with such a delicate touch of care. To me they were a great surprise. I will share the movie with my colleagues. I did show your movie during the opening of school for teachers. We want to help our children grow in all aspects of their lives and compassion is nurturing as you said in the book.
- Martha Tamayo de Vergara, Bilingual Social Worker
Compassion is an old idea made new, because science has caught up to ancient literature and philosophy to prove that "the only way out" of resentment, anger, harmful or unskilled behavior is through compassion. It makes you protective rather than controlling and when this occurs, you simply stop using fear and shame to modify unskillful behaviors, which dramatically advances focus and productivity.
This beautifully illustrated book shows how everyone can make a difference with a simple act of compassion and positive attention toward any challenging person or situation. Compassion plus attention gets it done!!
There is probably nothing more challenging for any adult - professional and/or parent - than feeling the stresses of day-to-day life and work pressing upon them and simultaneously having a child or several children needing an appropriate dose of time and attention.
There is an old, worn out authoritarian model - still being subscribed to - that says that if you give a child too much positive, affirmative attention, you will spoil them and teach them to be self-absorbed to the point of being arrogant and narcissistic. Even though research has proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that it is the “lack of positive regard, affirmative attention and unconditional love” that actually instills those unwanted, self-absorbed behaviors within an individual, we still think withholding love and attention will somehow correct unwanted behaviors.
It's been said that life is like a carousel slide projector. The size of one's carousel depends on all the un-resolved snap shots of our life experiences. The carousel keeps going around and around inserting one unresolved scene after another - being played out in real life time - through our repeat experiences. Over and over until we are able to resolve, re-frame and/or forgive.
Healing Today's Children ...and Ourselves means that through our children, we get to live out anything in our past that we have not resolved, re-framed or forgiven. As we do our own personal work, our children automatically experience immediate freedom from generational legacy's of pain, shame and fear.
Whether we are an adult working in a professional setting with children, or a parent, when we have children in our immediate field of influence, anything that's not inwardly resolved within ourselves will most assuredly be played out.
This book gives you concise, simple ways you can immediately begin "thinking differently" to positively affect children and heal anything unlike what is wanted.
"The words with which a child's heart is poisoned, whether through malice or through ignorance, remain branded in his memory, and sooner or later they burn his soul."
- Carlos Ruiz Zafon, Spanish author of The Shadow of the Wind
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